Hey, I’m Alan the man lucky enough to call Kayleigh my wife and just a quick info on me as a person I’m a 6ft 2” mechanic with no filter( I say exactly what is in my brain) so yeah…you thought resting bitch face was bad try having a brain with no brakes. Basically it all started with a face time on a Friday afternoon and that’s when things got REAL interesting.
To be very honest after finding out kayleigh was pregnant I didn’t really feel any different, obviously I was over the moon but apart from that everything was the same. We kinda done the whistle stop tour of the parents and everyone were as excited as us but something just didn’t feel real it kinda felt like a dream. Fast forward to the 17week scan and that’s where everything changed, we were sat there in this room and it was like the whole world stood still all I could here was a “Boom..Boom” noise which was his heartbeat, I mean I had seen all the other scans previous to this moment and seen his little heart beating but there was something magical about actually getting to hear it which is hard to put into words. Knowing that this would be the same heart that powers his body through his life, the same heart that we would help put back together after his first heartbreak and the same heart that would be beating out his chest at the top of the isle on his wedding day. There was in fact a person inside my wife’s tiny little bump and I had a huge sense pride wash over me all in those split seconds and as I wiped the one poetic tear from my eye as I realize a room full of women have been staring at me and talking to me while I was memorized with this TV screen of my unborn child and the sounds of his heartbeat.
If I can offer any advice to new dads or dads that are lucky enough to go through this all again with another child its embrace the beautiful moments like this and spend the money (if you can) because once these moments are gone they are gone. We are now proud owners of an overpriced stuffed penguin but none one actual f*ck was given cause I get to hear his heartbeat whenever I want now, and of course it made Kayleigh’s day. Skip forward a couple of months and it’s been a rough ride already we have had a couple of scares with pains and other things and I’ve done my usual overprotective job and got kayleigh bundled into the car and down to the hospital for a full M.O.T from the nurses until hey were happy and we could leave. I must admit in those moment of getting her down to the hospital were the scariest so far, my heart beating uncontrollably and just general worrying/ panicking that everything is crumbling around me. But on the surface I’m cool, calm and collected for Kayleigh and the baby’s sake. But once you hear the words everything’s fine from the nurses you let out the biggest sigh of relief in the world. But all the panic moments go away from your mind with the most random moments, we were lying on the couch I had put my hand on Kayleigh’s bump as I was talking to the wee boy and I felt it…….HE KICKED!!!! The tiny little human kicked just for me! Aaaaaaahhh he is so awesome! So from that moment on we have had a game where I tap on the outside of the bump and he matches it on the inside of the bump which is the simplest game but one of the absolute best.
As Kayleigh has probably already made you aware she hasn’t slept much during this pregnancy so the other night we tried an all natural sleeping aid called Bob Ross. Bob Ross is the presenter on the Joy of painting with a the most amazing voice with the most relaxing lull. I was introduced to him at an early age when my dad wanted a long lie in the morning after a nightshift and his son came through full of beans after a full night’s sleep and at 26 I’ve never managed to watch a full episode without falling asleep. So armed with this information I told my darling wife who let’s just say was delight to deal with in this occasion from the lack of sleep and extra hormones and the aggressive nesting that she wasn’t going for a nap just a lie down. As soon as she lay down I put on the joy of painting and what did you know she slept a full night….well apart from the usual pee breaks. So I will chalk this up as a win, and F.Y.I this approach also works with kids who are acting like little terrorists. So do what you will with that information.
I’m Alan and thank you for listening to my TED talk next week we can cover surviving aggressive nesting and Hangry negotiations.
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